At a staff meeting last Friday, our new ED introduced a get-to-know-you exercise for us to do. We had to partner up and take turns asking the following questions:
- Who are you?
- Who do you pretend to be?
- Who are you becoming?
The toughest part was that the answerer had to respond to each question repeatedly, in different ways, and the asker had to keep asking the question without reacting to the answers given, until the minute was up. It was a very difficult, awkward, tense, emotionally unsettling, and introspective game, but I’m glad we did it. I will share what I remember of my answers below, for reasons.
Who are you?
I am a girl.
I am a woman.
I am an intersectional feminist.
I am a slacktivist.
I am a social media narcissist.
I am someone who is still trying to figure out what her life is about.
I am Cambodian American.
Who do you pretend to be?
I pretend to understand love, when I guess I don’t.
I pretend to be someone smaller than I am.
I pretend to know everything about some things.
I pretend to be honest.
Who are you becoming?
I am becoming a woman who doesn’t feel like a girl.
I am becoming a more self-assured, confident person.
I am becoming someone who is realizing that life is a beginning, and not the end.